Lately, the topic of authenticity has been popping up a lot for me. People tell me that it’s one of their favorite things about me. And it’s honestly such a huge compliment, but also so important.
We live in a world where authenticity hasn’t been rewarded in the past. I believe that it’s slowly becoming more acceptable. In the past, you would stand out in a bad way for being authentic. Or I should say, if your form of authenticity is being different.
Which for me- man I’m SO different. I’m a pansexual, polyamorous, neurodivergent, dancer and cat girl. It doesn’t get much different than that.
But this is me. This is who I am, fully and authentically. And I wouldn’t want it any other way. I really love myself, especially for all my little quirks.
Now it hasn’t always been easy to be authentic. I hid myself all through high school, or at least mostly. The parts of my true self that I showed, were mocked and made fun of. I was too extra. From my excessive glitter to my overly peppy attitude. Being different wasn’t easy.
As I grew up, I slowly learned to not be ashamed of who I was. To be totally honest, this shift happened when I started raving, and I’m eternally grateful for that.
The rave community is not only open and accepting but encouraging of your differences. They want you to be weird, different, colorful, sparkly and fully YOU.
I love that, so wholesome.
Maybe raving isn’t your thing, but that doesn’t mean you can’t start showing up more authentically. We need more of you in the world. We all bring something special and unique to the world, and if you hide that, well that’s a shame.
If you’re scared to open yourself up, start small. Start with your closest friends. The people that support you no matter what. You got this; I believe in you. And if you can’t think of anyone else, I’m always here, cheering you on.
Another way I’ve recently been more authentic is on social media, which may sound silly, but it’s been really good practice for me. It’s harder than you think to show people your most intimate parts (literally).
I recently stopped hiding the fact that I’m a sex worker. It feels so good to type that out, without having to censor anything. I love how much of a safe place this blog is. But it’s scary. Because the world is still very much so shaming of sex workers. All of that to say, I’m still living my truth. If people want to judge me for it, they aren’t my people.
I hope this article has inspired you, you’re amazing and you deserve to shine bright. Don’t let anyone dull your sparkle, as cliché as that sounds.
Sending all of my love! This kitti says MRRROOOWWWW 🐱