11/03/2022
It's no secret that life has been chaotic for me. Not only right now, I mean especially right now, but kind of always. It's just my life. Maybe yours too.
I have a lot of routines in place that make my life feel good, and healthy. These small things keep me grounded, lower my stress and anxiety, as well as keep me self aware.
Some of these things are yoga, meditation, journaling, dancing, learning Spanish, reading and spending time doing nothing (reflecting).
I have been getting frustrated and down on myself because I notice this pattern of every time I have a big life change, or even small, like a short vacation, I have a really hard time keeping ALL of these elements in my daily, or even weekly routine.
I strive for perfect consistency to a fault. And since I strive for perfection, something unattainable, I always fail.
I brought this up in therapy, just completely shitting on myself for how horrible I've been. In Costa Rica, I did yoga EVERY DAY. The first two weeks coming back, I only did yoga 6 times. Feeling like an absolute failure, I went on, talking about each habit and how much progress I've lost.
My therapist pops in and goes, "Can I offer a reframe... 😅?" She's so cute and subtle when internally she's probably like, "Woah girl, let's chill out a bit..." Or maybe I just have severe anxiety and think everyone is harshly judging me constantly LOL.
Anyway, she explains how the REASON we have these routines and habits, is so that when we are in states of chaos or change, we have something to hold onto. We have something to turn to, to help us feel grounded and relieve some stress. Of course we won't have the time, energy or space to keep up everything. THAT'S OKAY. That's normal and human. We might NEVER have time to do it ALL.
So with this information, I've been practicing having grace with myself. And being grateful for the practices that I have, that can provide me a safe, loving space to realease and reflect. Calm and recenter.
A DISCLAIMER: As I type this I still don't fully believe it. My brain in like, "BRO, why can't you be a perfect superhuman and do IT ALL." But the key point here is I can acknowledge my flawed thinking, and reframe whenever I can.
So whatever your comfort, grounding practices are, remeber they are there for just that. They are there to help you feel better, not to make you feel guilty or add stress to your life. Life is already hard enough, we need to work on being kinder to ourselves.
If none of this relates to you and you treat yourself with loving kindess all the time, please hit a girl up and share your secrets, because it's a constant re-focusing task for me.
I hope you got some kind of help, reminder or affirmation from this ❤️
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I hope you're having a beautiful day. Thank you for being you. You're awesome, worthy and killing it at life!
HUGS 🤗
P.S. Not me finishing this article going, who authorized me to talk on this topic??? I should just delete it right 😭 AHHHH 🫠